As I reflected on my counseling session this evening to try to write my notes, the image of a wall came to mind. Not just any wall. A Rapunzel tower to be exact. I thought about why some people build walls and others don’t. I came to the realization that we all build walls. Some of us build small walls that we can step over when we need to. Some of us build our walls so high that others cannot break them down.
So I ask you, dear reader, how high do you build your wall? What is it that makes you build that wall? Is it lack of trust? Is it not wanting to be hurt? Is it because you need to feel safe? Is it because you are hiding your hurt? I wonder what life is like behind that high wall. Is it lonely? Is it comforting?
Some of us try without ceasing to break those walls down. Sometimes it feels like we will never even crack the bricks. At times, we might even wish we had the ability to scale that wall, peek over it and say, “Hi!” At times it is frustrating. At times we might even want to give up and allow the person to sit perched behind their wall and walk away from the whole situation.
We are made to be in relationship with each other. We crave human interaction, and, I will argue, that we need it. How can we be in relationship with one another when there is a wall built? Let me give you a hint, dear reader, WE CAN’T!
We need to talk to each other. We need to be supportive of one another. We need to laugh. We need to cry. We need to just “be.” And we need to do all of these things with others.
Life is not meant to be lived behind a wall. Life is meant to be lived to the fullest. If you are a wall builder, I would encourage you to start to chip away at that wall and stick a toe out. Feel the warmth of the sun on your face. Feel the gentle breeze against your skin. Breathe in life….breathe out negativity.
Take a chance. Let others in….you’ll be amazed.
Until Next Time,